Each One Teach One!!!!!!

“Teaching” is a dignified profession. My family has been into teaching from I don’t know how many generations. My grandfather was a head master in one of the reputed schools in Srinagar. So everyone in my family knows the nobleness of this profession. I don’t know if it still stands noble in the modern world. But for me it’s still noble, pure and selfless deed. I still remember most of my teachers in school n college; I feel so lucky to have had good mentors throughout my life.

As a kid, I used to teach my younger brother. He is the naughtiest kid I have ever seen till date. It was a trick to keep him glued to the books, as he had millions of excuses for not studying. I remember so many of his excuses for not sitting down with books…… “Hey, I’m thirsty, I have to use the washroom, I lost my pencil, I can’t find my book, I’m hungry, and….” my God he could go on and on with his excuses. He could do anything and everything to escape his ordeal with books. I loved studying so I hated his attitude towards studies. And with dad in Srinagar I had more than 10 reasons to help him or make him study, so I had to torment him. But at the same time, he loved studying when I was the one teaching. I used to read out to him. Make up stories so that he could remember. Cook up some experiments to show him how things work. Though we were poles apart, we always had interactive study sessions. I guess I’m good with kids only because I was dealing with a very naughty kid from childhood.

When I started working, I had seen a bunch of young kids working in small hotels/dabhas, shops, as workers everywhere. And I used to wonder what happened to the law, as far as I remember we had some law for no child labor. It actually rips my heart when I see small kids working. Making tea with their small hands, such small and tiny hands….. It’s such a pitiful sight. These hands should have had an opportunity to learn and grow. But alas! They have a hard way of learning. It certainly is a difficult way of learning, a battle for their survival, a race to feed the countless mouths at home………. It is sad, in fact very sad to see the world around, with all these disparities.

But the question is what can we do???? So many things to do I guess…monetary help, donations, fund NGO’s……but whenever I think about it, all I feel is whether it actually goes into the benefit to the needy people or does it just go into someone else’s pocket…. I don’t know the answer, but I don’t think there is a better answer to it. Consider our situation - we pay taxes ever year. Do our savings, file taxes, tax returns and what not, but do we get perfect roads… I think you already know the answer…..which is NO!!!

A year back, I started teaching some under-privileged kids during the weekends. It is surely a privilege to teach the under-privileged……. as it gives me an utmost satisfaction. It’s a feeling that I can’t describe, it’s just amazing. I don’t think there can be a bigger gift that you can give yourself.

I see a magnificent spark in their twinkling eyes. Strange eyes they have….. full of hope but at the same time you can also see some hopelessness. May be these little kids wonder, as to why they don’t have a life worth living. I teach 3 kids, one kid in K.G., one girl in class 5 and the eldest one in class 6. The variation is just awesome. You may not believe if I tell you that these kids are smarter for their age. And on top of that they are very good in grasping, understanding and very hardworking. It’s very exciting to teach such kids, who have a desire to learn. I love teaching them, its fun in some ways. I teach maths in hindi as some are in a marathi medium. I am actually learning a lot of hindi myself ;). Believe me it’s fun, luckily I can connect to these kids as I understand and can speak some marathi. But when I see the hardships they are going through it’s just too over-whelming.

I am not a philosopher, nor do I plan to revolutionize the world. I am just doing my bit…….….. so should you. Guys don’t wait for an opportunity to knock on your door…. Just go and find one. :)

Happy 1st Birthday – “Wild Berries” :)

“Wild berries” turns ONE. “Wild berries” is not just a blog for me; it has been a personal space for me where I could put in my thoughts out to the world. It is my immense pleasure to let you know that I have successfully completed one year here... I was a regular blogger and tried to keep you and I entertained. Blogging has been a great stress buster and a companion for almost a year now, a friend with whom I can share anything.

Writing was my passion since childhood... but I never got chance to share it with others. As a child, I loved writing diaries and put down my thoughts, views, perceptions, dreams, fears and what not. But all these thoughts remained in the yellow pages of my diaries. There was no difference of opinion; no clash of the titans, no one could challenge my thought process. But my dream of writing and getting my thoughts out to people came true with blogger – thank you blogger :)

There are many people behind the success of my blog. It took me a lot of motivation to actually join blogger. A close friend suggested one day... "Hey, why don’t you blog? It’s a nice platform to share your ideas." I was reluctant at first….but when I started blogging, there was no looking back. I felt great as blogging gave my freedom of speech back ….. I’m thankful to you sweetheart for motivating me enough to write.

“Wild Berries” won’t have been possible without the support of my friends, whom I bugged day and night to review and send me the feedback. I have bugged ‘amit’ way too much.... poor fellow did his PhD on my blogs :P other than his research work... :D

I guess, it’s a brilliant way to exploit my over active brain... :P Putting my thoughts in here, fears, confessions or anything or everything makes it more and more interesting as I write or even consider writing about them.

I feel by now, many people who read my blog actually know me so well. I write what I feel. I know my ideas are not customary.. I am rebellious since childhood. I have always had a voice of my own... against society... against prejudices or anything that doesn’t have logic (or as some call it ‘logicless’ :D).

I am an organization freak!!! As crazy as it sounds, it’s equally crazy to be one. If you happen to see the popular TV series ‘Friends’, I happen to be “Monica Gellar”. I love everything in place, be it books, documents, items and all. I love keeping things logically in order, even the right and left of things is important to me. I love to do things my way, but at the same time I’m not rigid.

I’m a “free- bird” who hates enclosures. I hate being restricted or being stuffed in a cage. I want to see the world with my eyes and explore it with my wings. At times I love to keep my personal space, I love being lazy sometimes...laid back for a moment .......just sit there and do nothing for a while......

And yes, this blog is my reality. Every person has so much in them but they never get a right platform to share their views. I’m contented about the fact that at least my blogs will help me capture my dreams, fears, aspirations...I mean every facet of my life. It will be a legacy that I can share with my family when I’m too old to remember anything. :D :D :D

Trek to Sinhagad :)))

Finally, after so much planning and driving people out of the gym was successful. We ventured to Sinhagad. I have been there a couple number of times but every time I go, it’s different. And a new group just adds adventure. Especially, when you go with only people you don’t know very well; I mean ‘hi-hello’ people around you. Obviously, who has the time to make friends in the gym… Everyone is busy finishing there workouts….as everyone has to rush to office. We hardly talk at length. All we talk about is ‘how many calories do you burn?’ or ‘what diet do you follow?’ or ‘are you losing any weight?’ or ‘what to eat?’ or ‘What not to eat?’ :P Believe me it’s a crazy discussion at times, and I pity the trainer for answering the same set of questions again and again.

Whenever you do an activity together in a group, a new bond is formed. It’s so much fun as you share common experiences. In a small group of 7 people, we two were experienced and all others were first timers. It was so fun making them trek hard, I’m sure they had a tough time for 3-4 days at least.

It wasn’t very early, around 8am in the morning. But the look around was just phenomenal. Just last night it had rained cats and dogs here so I was wondering how we will go. But in the morning, cloudy weather was the driving force for going. So we all gathered in front of our gym calling all who signed up for the trek. I guess out of a good number of more than 20 people we could manage only 6 on board. Thankfully we didn’t give up or cancel and we continued with our plan.

As we started our trip, the whole city was sporting a ‘wet look’, which was just beautiful. The way plants get more and more greener when it rains. You can see all types of green… the dark leafy one, the color of the new leaves, the grass, the sight is awesome. The colors and the freshness around you makes you marvel at mother nature’s capability to revive itself. The whole scene looks like it underwent a metamorphosis just in one night. And all you want to do it praise the creator and be amazed with his work.

As we managed the first timers, the trek got very interesting. I was busy clicking some random shots, helping my group and having fun. It was so good to get in touch with my “pahadi” roots. I love trekking/hiking and I guess I get this streak from my father. My father is an avid mountaineer and a true “pahadi” for that matter. I’m amazed with his enthusiasm to explore places and climb mountains. I would be very interested to join a group of trekkers or something like that, who go hiking every now and then. It will be very interesting to go with people from different walks of life, coming together for a common passion.

Tragedy of Being a Kashmiri Pandit!!!!!!!!

This blog is not just any other blog. It’s a subject that’s very close to my heart. It’s about the journey of a child who saw 2-3 generations trapped in ill-fated militancy, and witnessed all the misery it got along. Even if I was a kid, I felt the blow so hard that it’s still fresh in my memory. I can still hear those dreadful words from the mosque, I am still aware of the trauma we were in. I still remember those fearful nights….those dreaded moments that anyone will just walk in our house and kill us. I used to be hell scared if my mother went out to buy something and hoped that she will come back alright. I can’t tell you how it feels to be a victim for something you didn’t even do….

No matter how much we Kashmiri’s are proud of our heritage, we were hurt and betrayed by our own people. Our own land is no more the same, we were thrown out saying that we don’t belong here. I don’t know if any of my non-kashmiri friends will ever understand what it is to be a ‘cursed Hindu’. What is it to be a child whose childhood didn’t see innocence but responsibilities? What it is to see your family torn? The bitter feeling of losing everything! From a luxurious life to life in a box; yes we stayed in a box, what else will you call when a whole family stays, cooks and sleeps in one room? Migration from a big house to a box was just phenomenal, but I guess we were so traumatized that it didn’t matter what we had and what we didn’t as long as we were alive.

I belong to that generation of unlucky kids who witnessed the upsurge of militancy. It is sad, very sad to be one of them. I feel sorry not only for myself but my grandmother, who had to leave her proud legacy and was forced to stay in the box. I am sorry for my parents who had to stay away from each other for as long as 15 years…. just because they had a family to support. I feel sorry for a wife, a mother and a daughter who had to do everything all by herself for her family. I have not known anyone as strong as my mother. I was strongly influenced by her; she planted roots of a strong personality with an optimistic mental outlook in me. My mother stood like a pillar of strength for our family and never let us feel as to how disturbed and traumatized she felt. My mom being an intelligent lady was never conservative and always had progressive ideas. She used to encourage us to learn to stand on our own feet and pursue our professions with oozing self-confidence. Her main ambition was the prosperity of her children.

I feel sorry for my father, who was kind of trapped in his job. As a son, husband and a father, he had his responsibilities. My dad, a disciplined, dedicated and an honest man, who approaches issues with an alert mind and goes about his job in a methodical manner but he was not given a fair chance to get transferred to Jammu so that he could be with his family. All useless government and so called human rights agencies just pretended to help the Pandits….but I know what they did. Ask any Kashmiri Pandit and they will tell you what all have they suffered.

I feel sorry for the son and the daughter, who could never have a full fledged family. No mentor around during their career building years. Even if my dad is a living encyclopedia, with all the information in the world…. be it religion, science, occult sciences, agriculture, anything and everything…. A very well-learned man but at the same time, he is an expert in finding fault with others and castrating them for their shortcomings. I wish, I and my little brother had a good guidance and support of our father when we were growing up. May be I would have been much more than what I am now. It’s not that I am not happy with what I am but I wish I had a chance to do it even better. It’s not that I am not proud of what all I have accomplished in all these years, but I don’t think it’s my success… This success and its credit belong to my parents without whom I would never have been able to come so far. I owe so much to them and all the pain and sacrifices they made for both of us. I am so blessed to be their daughter, even if I had ups and downs in my life…. They never gave up on me. Their faith in me and their whole-hearted blessings have taken me all the way up.

The worst thing is to be a refugee in your own country. When not only other cities, states and communities treat you like a bunch of losers but they also make fun by saying “hey, I can’t believe you fled from your homeland, how can you? How can anyone? You are too weak to let go of your house and age old legacy”. Can someone go and tell them, it’s easy to say but god forbid. I hope no one ever on this planet has to go through anything like this. I can’t tell you how hurt my whole community is….. Where should we go and seek answers when even our own gods have turned their backs on us. Life was difficult and impossible. People just talk and talk; they never did anything for the benefit of a ‘migrated Hindu’ – even if we are in majority here. There were very few people who came up to help.

I don’t know if anyone reading this blog will ever be able to relate to the trauma faced by us. I don’t think anyone can believe or imagine how difficult it was for all the Kashmiri Pandits. We started from scratch… actually from a twig. Even if we had everything a night before, the next day we were beggars, just beggars who had nothing but just a hope that we will come back soon. Newspapers covered with blood everywhere – ‘5 people killed’- ’10 people killed’ – ’20 people killed’. Who kept the count? We all were busy thanking for each day we were alive (oh sorry) survived. With my father in Srinagar and we surviving in Jammu, I have not seen a single day, when my mother and grandmother were not worried about my father’s safety and safe arrival. Prayers were all we had.

I don’t blame anyone. I don’t know why it happened? I don’t know what went wrong, that our own people turned against us. I don’t have an answer, but I have so many questions that I want to ask. These questions never leave me; they are always there in my head. And I keep wondering, what was it that I did wrong? What was my fault?
I salute the whole brigade of Kashmiri Pandits for their fighting spirit. They have fought against all odds. I don’t think there can be any other community that could have survived this tragedy. Even a mighty country like the US couldn’t survive 9/11….. and a handful of Kashmiri Pandits survived and rose above all odds. It wasn’t a miracle nor did happen in one night…………they worked hard and never gave up. I guess our rich culture; our values, ethics, morals and above all our education came to our rescue. I salute all the parents who stood up to make their children’s life peaceful.

I salute, I salute, I salute………

Are You Really Healthy????

We always talk about good health, but how many of us are actually healthy? Believe me the answer to this question will surprise you. You and people around you might appear “pink in health” but the reality will leave you stunned. We all are so busy with our chores that we never have time to actually see how hollow and lifeless are the eyes surrounding us.

“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” – a famous saying I heard when I was a kid….. It stands true even now. We all are trapped in our own worlds – “offices”. All we do is work – project, deadline, reviews, reports, client calls, delivery, etc. etc and the list goes on and on and on. Handling like 2-4 projects at the same time, multi-tasking, multi-dimensional work, muti-disciplinary work is the need of the hour. 24 hrs do not suffice the amount of work we have to finish in a day. Now with so much work, who has the time to play? But we have time to pop pills, go to hospitals, pay heavy bills and feel good that everything can be taken care of. Hah!!! You must be kidding me.

And if you happen to be lucky enough to get hold of a disorder at an early stage, you will go crazy thinking how you are not healthy? Then you act like a fool - counting calories every time you eat, weighing every time you come across a weighing machine, thinking like 10 million times about what to eat and what to avoid, a complete switch-over to fruits, salads and boiled food, less salt, no sugar, no soda, going vegetarian, cutting down on carbs (can’t believe I even stopped eating rice :( ), dieting (even if I don’t believe in it), cutting down on almost everything you love eating, I tried everything n believe me nothing works. Instead, you feel cranky, crazy and depressed.

With the physical activity graph going down, I finally decided to do something about it. Out of all the options possible, I found “gymming” a better option to stay fit. I hate being restricted in a cubicle but once you have a good kick-start in the morning, you feel energetic the whole day. And once you go for it, you will find yourself trapped in a viscous circle because you won’t feel like giving it up. I joined the gym for just 3 months to check whether I will b able to manage office, gym and cooking…. And I’m surprised, I can do all :).

But now, gymming has become a vital part of my routine, may be adrenaline is responsible for this healthy and happy look. I don’t feel like skipping the gym even for a day, it keeps me active. I follow no strict diet only exercise and believe me I feel so good. I have not given up anything, just made some minor changes in my routine. To start with, I included more salads, fruits, proteins. I eat whatever I want and burn equivalent calories. I guess I’m still carrying the IIT attitude here, “work hard n party harder” same thing goes for my gym.

Healthy food and a healthy living are on my high priority list, what about you?

Three Weeks of Pampering!!!!!!!!!!!!

“Pamper” as we all know is a wonderful feeling or gesture shown by someone whom you love immensely. The month of march was just brilliant as my dad and little brother (for me he never gets older :P) had come to spend some time with me. Everything was perfect. I was so so so happy by just the thought that they are here. Though my brother was here only for like 3-4 days, we still managed to have fun, fight, yell and irritate the hell out of each other :P. (I know it doesn’t sound like fun, but it is. Ohh , I so miss those silly fights we used to have and then patch up the very next minute. Mom used to get so irritated with our fights, hahahahaha it used to be so good.)

Here are some of the activities that we did and I really wanna share with you all, I know you will relate to them well :)

Shopping with bhai – I don’t know why guys and colors don’t go along well. We were literally fighting over t-shirt colors :P. I wanted him to pick any other color than red or black, but he won’t just give up. He kept saying… ohh thats a female color….. or that’s too flashy….. or that’s too loud :( . But I didn’t give up; I made him buy other colors. Yippyyyy (come on dude you looked so cool in the wine colored one.)

Cooking – my dad is a great cook, so I had grand treats for 3 weeks. It was raining Roganjoshes, Yahkhinis, Munghi-haakh, razma, and what not: O (just writing about it makes me hungry.) We had so much fun cooking on weekends, I love cooking for dad and pampering him. I cooked something different for him like lemon rice, sambhar, pav bhaji, thalipeeth, so that he enjoys a unique taste. In spite of the fact that our cooking ways are extremely different, he still loved it. I believe in cooking healthy and he cooks with lots and lots of oil and ghee (but obviously his food tastes brilliant: P). I have just realized one thing “the more sinful (calorie-rich) the food is, the more awesome it is”. That’s the irony of the whole thing :(

IPL Fever – Cricket has been our love of interest for a long time. I still remember as kids – me and bhai playing cricket every weekend with dad. And how, I never used to agree that I’m out. I loved batting and immensely hated fielding (: P). It used to be so fun….. as I kept on saying…ok last chance one last chance… :D :D :D :D And I still remember those brilliant willow bats; oiling them and those dangerous cricket balls (we had the best collection at home). Ahh how can I forget the injuries I had while playing. Wow… I so miss being a kid and my cricket team.

Discussions – We both love debating, so we usually have very exhaustive discussions about anything and everything. Topics vary from cooking, current affairs, IPL, right way of living, health, medicines, yoga, books, writers, news, gadgets, globalization, science , technology, culture, anything …………….…. believe me any topic can be beaten to dead with the discussion :D. We mostly never agree with each other and the best part is that we both never give up.

But what life man… it was just awesome. Stress-free days, full of surprises, good food, discussions, what else can you ask for. Breakfast with dad, lovely evenings followed by a dinner to die for, just makes me realize what all I have been missing. I am very close to my dad and it’s a great feeling as you still have so much to talk and share. His pranks at school, adventures, love for food, and lots of other gossips we love talking about. I fall so short of words to actually describe that feeling I don’t know how to put it down in words, I just feel so lucky :). I guess you actually connect at a different level as you grow up.

These three weeks of spending some good quality time with dad is the best thing I did in the past 10 years. It’s strange how we spend most of our childhood yearning to be independent but once we are, we still miss the doting care and pampering of our parents………………………………

The Science of Cooking!!!!

Being an engineer, I won’t call cooking an art. It is definitely a science as it involves all skills of a scientist. It begins with discovery (discovery of tastes of different ingredients or identification of different flavors), experimentation (experimenting with all kinds of ingredients with different permutations and combinations), invention (it’s declared when you love it and everyone appreciates your cooking – that’s the measure of success) and last but unquestionably not the least is the touch of innovation – it is the basic element of any kind of research :). Innovation can be at the first stage or at the final one.

I belong to a family of foodies, where everyone is a cook in himself. My mom, dad (definitely a better cook than mom in some ways), me and my bro..... he is very innovative. To tell you sincerely, he is my main motivation for innovative cooking. You won’t believe if I tell you that he can cook million type of eggs at the same time and they all taste completely different from each other (just thinking about it makes me hungry :O). My grandmother was a great cook, she knew what "taste" is in a real sense. Her food would always make you gluttonous. It used to be yummy always, with lots of ghee and love. If you happen to have tasted the traditional "Kashmiri Fish Curry" she made, you were definitely the luckiest one. That is the best fish I have ever had till date, my mom still cannot cook it as well as Gia (my grandmother).

I have been cooking for almost like a year now, and believe me it’s a great stress buster and a very good way to kill time. I am in love with my cooking, I guess too self-obsessed. I love to experiment with all the vegetables, different combinations and ingredients. It’s really good because you just keep getting better and better. The performance graph is linear initially and then the improvement grows exponentially :P (yup it might sound funny to all my non geeky friends but I love R&D at all levels).

Furthermore, the effect of culture on cooking is also mind-blowing. Culture, geographical location and the local climate have a huge impact on the cooking of a particular region. It’s amazing to see how cuisines change at every mile (also within a single state). Our country being a great example of diverse cultures, foods as well as eating habits vary from one city to another.

But every cuisine uses a perfect science for cooking….

If you consider Kashmiri cuisine, everything is deep fried (vegetables as well as non-veg.), uses a lot of oil and red chilies...... but we balance it out with ‘sauf’ powder and lots of curd. (Curd is a specialty among Kashmiris, we love curd and we have it all the times). Now if you see the climate in Kashmir we need foods that can keep us warm so all the spices, oil and non-veg. does the trick for us.

Next, if you see the typical north Indian cuisine (esp. places like Punjab,UP etc.). They don’t have very spicy food but they use a lot of lemon, lots of water, lassi (buttermilk) and coriander in food. Coriander is very good for stomach and lemon and lassi are helpful for the extreme heat.

Now if we go down south......... the food is highly spicy but they always follow food with curd rice.... :) A perfect antidote to the gunpowder they take (gunpowder as they call it, is the chili powder). They love to have plain white rice with gun powder and a spoon of ghee,it tastes great. Moreover, drinking rasam or that colored water in Kerala definitely helps you digesting the food properly.

So, won’t you agree with me that it is definitely a science?

I dedicate the year of 2009’s R&D to cooking, which is turning into a passion :)