A small thought triggers a train of thoughts….. It’s rightly said a female’s brain is full of complexities. True very true, and why not, she has so much to worry about. So many things in her head, too much to manage and create a balance among all the people she loves or cares for. For the woman of today, she has to manage a career, love, life and the most challenging part - managing people, their thoughts, pleasing everyone around… that is really a tough task. There is a thin line between good and bad thoughts. Ideally there shouldn’t be any difference as these thoughts come from our head. But there are some things we don’t want to think about ever, and we want to live some thoughts again and again.
No matter how hard you try, stupid things come back to you in life. No matter how much you want to forget certain things in life, they still haunt you. Every one commits mistakes; everyone fails at one point or the other….. But life doesn’t stop, it moves on and on. And for once when we think we have got over it, just then it comes back and makes you realize that it’s not over :( why do we have such movements…. Why can’t the past decently burry itself, why does it have to come back and bite you there, where it hurts the most…..
I know life’s not fair, it never was. When we have everything, when we are happy, focused and when we have made up my mind and we know what we want……… why do decisions still flicker? Why do we need to think again? Why do we always weigh the right and wrong of things? Why do we have conflicting thoughts? Why do we at times fight with our own thoughts…… why can’t we decide or be firm on certain things when we know exactly what we want?
What does it mean – “I have everything but I’m not happy?” Is there something like that. Are people really happy when they say so or when they look happy? I’m not sure……………even if your future looks bright…certain things might surprise, shock, stun or sadden you. You may want to go back in time and change what you did? But why, you wanted all that…. Why are we so confused? Why do we want something so badly and then decide otherwise? Why does it happen? What are we thinking or why do we think so much? Why do we keep cribbing/ whining? Why can’t we be happy with what we have? Why don’t we feel good about simple things in life? Why do we unnecessarily complicate things in our life? I guess it has become a way of life….. nobody wants to take a chance, I mean why take a chance… everyone wants to be sure…..sure of what they have…..and they keep planning and planning…….but how much can you plan? Is everything in our hands? No…..we don’t live in a no man’s land.
Hey, don’t get upset after reading the blog. I know most of you have these thoughts every day. I’m just trying to clear out some thoughts in my head as Joe’s says “I’m organizing my thoughts.” :)
Friday, November 26, 2010
Monday, November 15, 2010
My Madly MAIDly Woes!!!!
You might think it’s such a silly topic to write about, but it’s not. Ask all the ladies in the house, they will tell you how miserable life becomes when your maid (or bai as we call her here) doesn’t turn up on time or she misses a day. I am sure you all will concur with me about the importance of a bai. I already have a full fledged blog dedicated to a bai. :D
I had attended a “Hasya Kavi Samelan” when I was in IIT and the famous poet ‘Surinder Sharma’ said something like “a wife will compromise with anyone be it a sabziwala, or shopkeeper, or watchman, or cleaner and the most important of all the “bai” but she will never compromise with her husband”. As uncanny as it sounds, I guess it’s true.
We all are so set in our ways these days and are highly dependent on our bai’s schedule that we manage ours with her. Even if you pay her well, feed her well, and support her well….there will still be no end to your worries. All you think before going to bed is “will she come tomorrow?”, “will she come on time?”, and “will she finish her work before 9 “….. and it goes on and on…..And if you happen to be a cleanliness freak, then your life will surely be miserable. No matter how good or bad your bai is.
I have been in Pune for almost 2 yrs now and I might have changed 4-5 bai’s till now. Some work well, some have time issues, some don’t come every day……and the worst of all; they will ditch you when you need them the most. I have realized it whenever my parents or friends visit me, my bai goes berserk. She will just decide to either go sick or will have urgent family issues to attend to.
When you will want her to clean properly and even if you are actually working with her she will be in a hurry to rush things. Other times when you are in a hurry to rush to office she will try and clean every nook of your place. You can imagine how irritating it is…….and that too if you have an important meeting to attend to. Plus if you have an encounter with your bai early morning, all the frustration/ stress flows in your work routine. But isn’t it that we all have a bai to help us with a lot of things so that we can relax and have a bit stress free life…. … but is that so…….. the answer is a big fat NO.
Even if you try and understand her issues and are sympathetic, it will never work…… I guess we all have a lot of worries of our own. I’m most of the times managing 1 million things in my life and I surely don’t get paid to do everything even if I do everything perfect (may be some almost perfect). Life is funny….As a kid our parents always told us ‘Do good and you will have good’…………. These sayings don’t work in today’s world, especially when it comes to a bai.
I know some of you must be thinking I’m crazy as I am writing about it, but I’m having a tough time with my bai these days so I just wanted to vent it out.
I had attended a “Hasya Kavi Samelan” when I was in IIT and the famous poet ‘Surinder Sharma’ said something like “a wife will compromise with anyone be it a sabziwala, or shopkeeper, or watchman, or cleaner and the most important of all the “bai” but she will never compromise with her husband”. As uncanny as it sounds, I guess it’s true.
We all are so set in our ways these days and are highly dependent on our bai’s schedule that we manage ours with her. Even if you pay her well, feed her well, and support her well….there will still be no end to your worries. All you think before going to bed is “will she come tomorrow?”, “will she come on time?”, and “will she finish her work before 9 “….. and it goes on and on…..And if you happen to be a cleanliness freak, then your life will surely be miserable. No matter how good or bad your bai is.
I have been in Pune for almost 2 yrs now and I might have changed 4-5 bai’s till now. Some work well, some have time issues, some don’t come every day……and the worst of all; they will ditch you when you need them the most. I have realized it whenever my parents or friends visit me, my bai goes berserk. She will just decide to either go sick or will have urgent family issues to attend to.
When you will want her to clean properly and even if you are actually working with her she will be in a hurry to rush things. Other times when you are in a hurry to rush to office she will try and clean every nook of your place. You can imagine how irritating it is…….and that too if you have an important meeting to attend to. Plus if you have an encounter with your bai early morning, all the frustration/ stress flows in your work routine. But isn’t it that we all have a bai to help us with a lot of things so that we can relax and have a bit stress free life…. … but is that so…….. the answer is a big fat NO.
Even if you try and understand her issues and are sympathetic, it will never work…… I guess we all have a lot of worries of our own. I’m most of the times managing 1 million things in my life and I surely don’t get paid to do everything even if I do everything perfect (may be some almost perfect). Life is funny….As a kid our parents always told us ‘Do good and you will have good’…………. These sayings don’t work in today’s world, especially when it comes to a bai.
I know some of you must be thinking I’m crazy as I am writing about it, but I’m having a tough time with my bai these days so I just wanted to vent it out.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
